If I was going to die in a year, a month or even a day from now, I would prefer to leave with nothing undone or unsaid.
Not so long ago, I attended a memorial service for a man who I knew only by circumstance. Going seemed like an honourable and neighbourly thing to do ~ I was glad I went. While walking home with a friend later in the afternoon we got to talking and he said, “It is such a tragedy”. Of course it was sad. I was sad. What struck me, however, was how inspired I felt … so much so I had an urge to write about my feelings.
Never before had I heard such poignant words spoken and heart-felt music played as a testament to a life well lived. It truly was a beautiful ceremony in celebration of a generous, humble, kind, and loving man.
Stephen Levine, author of A Year to Live ~ How to Live This Year As If It Were Your Last, suggests, “The single most mitigating factor when someone has time to prepare for death, is that there seems to be less concern with heroics than with clarity and compassion. They do not require the orchestra to play their theme as they exit, although several have mentioned almost ecstatically that they could hear it tuning up!”
Even though we may not see death coming can we still die in peace? Have we healed our disappointments? Have we acknowledged our pain and forgiven mercifully? Have we kept our hearts open? Have we lived freely and loved fully? Have we shared our greatest gifts?
I pray, if I should die before I sleep, these words would be my farewell song… “Maureen had a zest for life, she was curious and courageous, she expressed herself without apology, she was vigorous, warm, responsive, engaging, creative, and passionate. Maureen embraced life and lived fully, she was a compassionate force to be reckoned with.”
Of course it wouldn’t be right or natural to leave out some of the messy bits ~ the challenges and struggles which are part and parcel of who I am. But we don’t need to go into that! I write these personal sentiments because I have a need to say that we all have a choice to live our days in our own special way … fully expressed, transparent, truthful, and free. Sooner or later this present moment is going to be our last.
As a yoga teacher and mentor, my work involves helping people gain greater strength and flexibility. I support individuals going through stressful times to embrace their vulnerability, acknowledge their fears, and courageously explore their options. I create and hold safe sacred space for individuals to discover their purpose and potential, achieve emotional balance, and experience transformation.